What do we do when we fall out? Love? Like? Friendship? More?
Do we just silently slip away and ghost the other person? Do we have a confrontation that forces one party to “be the leaver” so the person left behind feels better about the break up and the person left feels justified in their anger?
This happens in a variety of settings, not just intimate romantic relationships, it includes those with friends, family, even a store associate (trust me, I’ve seen it). Whenever it happens it’s never fun and generally hurts, no matter which end of the split you’re on.
So how does bipolar play into this you ask?
Well, people with bipolar have an exceedingly difficult time finding relationships and an even harder time building them. It’s based in part in the person with bipolar isolation and thus choosing to pull themselves out of the relationship themselves. Please know this is not always not always a good thing and it would actually be helpful to reach out and check in at these moments, invite us for coffee or a movie.
On a more serious note I personally have lost friends, family, and partners over my bipolar disorder. Yes, it really can get that bad. I’ve spent too much money. I’ve screamed and yelled in arguments when it certainly wasn’t needed. I’ve taken these people loved (and most still do) me for granted. The pressure of being with me just became too much for some and that’s okay. Both they and I are still working on boundaries, and that’s just fine. We are all working on something, right?
Please pay attention and let my experience be a lesson rather than a guide.